I suppose while dating and single, it might be hard to consider oneself lucky. All these happy couples around flaunting their love, which seems like ‘in your face’. As you get older, especially with social media, your friends, acquaintances’, coworkers, etc, ‘next steps’ are a constant reminder that you are not only single, but have absolutely no prospects in your radar.
If your status is currently “dead single” then this is the time to finally be grateful that you are not with the wrong person – give yourself a pat on the back.
But wait – do you think you deserve the pat on the back if you (out of sheer boredom) spend some evenings/any time really, with those guys, you know, the ones you know you will never actually settle down with. The type of guys that include but are not limited to:
- the guy who calls/texts you past 11pm (he’s a busy dude apparently)
- the guy who fucked a couple of your friends
- the guy who doesn’t want a serious relationship
- the guy you aren’t attracted to but spend time with anyways (loneliness enjoys company)
- the taken man (he goes home to someone else)
- the flake guy, he has “rescheduled way too many times”
- the “work in progress” aka. no job, dirty apartment and past the age of 30.
- the guy who makes you feel bad about yourself; he won’t take you seriously, but he has that “life” that you can only dream about
- the list continues – unfortunately.
Or are you the type of person to not waste your time on these individuals? Well if you are then stop reading now because you are either (an introvert, workaholic, school obsessed or…) and that type of behaviour will not be covered here.
While dead single, it is up to you to establish what you deem acceptable in a mate. The time to set your standard has never been more imperative.
What is setting a standard? Well, first you have to think in your mind, who would be your best match? Is he the successful guy, the sensitive artist, active conservative man? Whatever it is, you must pin point it. Make a list of the qualities that are non-negotiable. For example:
2. Makes you laugh
3. Positive outlook on life
4. Considerate of your feelings
5. Makes a certain amount per year – and is generous
6. Get along with family/friends
Keep in mind, this list is a direct reflection of you. The key is to make this list and then be able to live up to it yourself. Basically become the person you want to date. Any questions just ask Girlwadder.